What LisaRaye Taught Me

Monday’s Motivation is my gift to you for a better outlook on your week. I am not now nor have I ever been a morning or Monday person. But if I can transform the negativity I feel about Monday into something proactive to help you get your week started then I will have contributed to a much more positive energy in your life. Please read, share and enjoy.


This weekend, before I did some running around with one of my favorite people in the world I was sitting at home watching  TV. I pulled up the guide and saw that the classic 1998 movie The Players Club, starring the beautifully talentless LisaRaye, had just started

I had forgotten exactly how much I loved that movie since I hadn’t seen it in years and found myself anticipating certain moments like when fellow stripper Ronnie, the deliciously wicked lesbian, spanked a white man with a paddle while he screamed ‘I’m black and I’m proud!’ And of course the epic cat fight at the end of the movie where Diamond beat the shit out of Ronnie for being such an evil bitch.

Although Diamond was a stripper she was also in college obtaining a degree so she could move to a better place in her life. Conversely, she was surrounded by many negative influences and opinions that she had to block out in order to achieve her goal.

By the end of the movie Diamond graduates and gladly hangs her stilettos up as she chucks the deuces to the Players Club and boldly steps away from one chapter of her life into the next.

I saw a lot of myself in Diamond that day. And no, not because I know I’d kill it on the pole during the It Seems Like You’re Ready. I saw the struggle within myself of where I am now and where I want to be.

I think as people we tend to allow ourselves to settle in one place for a very long time and never question whether or not there is a possibility for better. And honestly, if we never think beyond what we see in front of us then there probably won’t be anything better for us.

In order to test your faith and courage sometimes you’ve got to take a chance. But before that happens you must believe in yourself.

You must believe in your ability and in the possibility that you can do anything you set your mind to. Even when your current situation seems hopeless or joyless, the only person stopping you from inviting positive change into your life is you.

I leave you with this quote:

If you believe you can, you probably can. If you believe you won’t, you most assuredly won’t. Belief is the ignition switch that gets you off the launching pad.

Denis Waitley

Diamond knew that her current situation was all the way fucked up but it never stopped her from believing in herself to move past the bullshit in her life towards something that would make a difference. She could have continued stripping at a different club if she wanted to but she had a plan and stuck to it.

Complacency will get you nowhere. It’s a comfortable place where risks don’t get taken and advancement is an impossibility. The first step towards moving into your new life is to believe that you can move out of your old one. Anything in life is possible if you believe and make it happen.

Because clearly, if LisaRaye can be that terrible an actress and still be getting money to this day there’s no reason why any of us can’t follow our dreams and make some shit happen.

If she can believe in herself that much then what’s stopping you?

And that’s what LisaRaye taught me this weekend. Belief is a mutha fucka. So please believe in yourself and see just how far your belief will take you.

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