When I was 25 I could go out every night, drink like a fish and pop up in the morning ready to attack the day.
I believed that this resilience would last for my entire life. However, as this past weekend has proven, that shit is only for a limited time like Endless Shrimp at Red Lobster.
It sometimes takes me days to recover from a big night out. And honestly I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I am getting older but also because I don’t really take good care of myself.
In the past few months I’ve been noticing many people I know making lifestyle changes and they seem to be working for them. I’ve tried on many occasions to eat healthier, drink less and become more active. And for a while it does work. Until that one night when I eat a whole bunch of fat shit, drink a bar’s worth of booze and then wake up the next day screaming ‘Fuck the gym!’ before slithering out of bed and eating something fattening for lunch (because when I’m that hungover Breakfast is nonexistent). Then I ask myself ‘What’s the point of trying to change?’
So I do nothing. And then I get motivated to do something about my unhealthy lifestyle again and repeat the cycle.
People who have made drastic changes in their lives have all failed at some point. Some will be successful and remain committed to their goals while others will try it, fail and just say ‘At least I tried’.
Someone once told me that success means nothing without failure and I never understood what that meant because obviously if you succeed at something you’ve won.
So where’s the failure?
The failure comes in at those moments during the journey. It’s that moment when you’ve made all of those strides towards achieving a goal and then you’re faced with a major setback. At the time it may seem
like a failure but the success comes when you learn from your mistakes, dust yourself off and try again.
Success isn’t linear. It is a series of trial and error until you find the best way to achieve what you set out to do. Ultimately the success and the failure lies within you and you can’t have one without the other. The ironic thing is that you will either attempt to reach your success after the failure or just accept the failure for what it is and stop trying.
In any event, it’s up to you to determine if the goal is important enough to make the necessary sacrifices and adjustments. True change starts from within and once you begin you must enjoy the process because it’s the most important part of any journey.
Submit to the process. Learn during the process and never give up your resolve to eliminate the things you don’t need from your life and replace them with things that will enrich the quality of your life so that when you look in the mirror you won’t be discouraged by what you see now. You’ll be motivated by the vision of what you can be.