Many people believe once you hit 30 the rest of your life is a time of desolation, desperation and decay towards death. Apparently you can’t be as hot as you were in your teens and 20’s once you’ve crossed the threshold into your fourth decade. But that kind of thinking is a societal thing . Most people embrace their 30’s as a time of transition from the follies of youth to becoming more aware of who you are and what you have to offer.
Then you have those sad, unfortunate people who go around still trying to cling to their youth by acting the same way they did in their 20’s, doing the same things they did in their 20’s and coming up with cute catch phrases like ‘You know 30 is the new 20!’
No bitch, it’s still 30. Go sit your old ass down somewhere and stop trying to be young.
Jokes aside we live in a pretty dangerous time in regards to appearance. The degrees of beauty standards vary in different ways based on the individual and region. Not necessarily with men though, because most of them don’t give a fuck how they look on a daily basis. As long as it’s clean and it fits it’s getting worn so no need for a thousand wardrobe changes before they leave the house. For women, though, it’s a different ball game altogether.
Women have to compete with body image issues, complexion issues and self esteem issues. There’s a long list of ways that the media attempts to ensure that if you’re not a size 0 with a drop dead gorgeous face you need products, and make up, and Spanx, and other alterations to make yourself resemble the Photoshopped goddesses in magazines.
If you’re a regular person you don’t have the time, energy or money to look like most celebrities. But I believe that the idea of looking like celebrities ties into Hero worship and the public’s desire to be like them. However, the joke is on us. Outside of the designer clothes, mountainous weaves and expensive cosmetics most celebrities look like regular people.
Because they are regular people with the only difference being that their job is to look good.
Need proof? I’m sure you’ve noticed these pictures of attractive women scattered throughout this post. You’re probably saying to yourself ‘Oh I see. He’s into white women’.
Nope! That’s not the case at all. As of today, December 19 2013, these women represent the first five images you’ll see on Google when you type in the words Beautiful Woman.
Deep ain’t it.
And if you’ll kindly look at the 8th woman you’ll realize that it’s star of stage and screen Beyonce’ Knowles Carter! However, she’s looking a little light and unrecognizable from her normal appearance.
Though she is a light skinned sistah you can tell that she’s not white. Yet, in certain photographs she’s been lightened wayyyy beyond recognition to the point where one would believe she is, in fact, a white woman.
Notice here in exhibit A where she looks like Debbie Gibson’s daughter
This doesn’t look like Beyonce’ at all. And I can’t place the fault with her per se because once the photos are in the hands of the editor they can make them into whatever they want.
Here are a few more examples.
Image is just that, image. It’s what you want the world to see. And in the Selfie obsessed, beauty craving world we live in we need something that is damn near perfect to hold our attention. It’s a shame that perfection is equal to an ideal of beauty that even white women themselves can’t hold true to. And when you think of the millions of women of all nationalities who lighten their skin, get colored contacts, dye their hair blond, starve themselves and emulate that which is not real all in the name of beauty it becomes evident that beauty is not real. It’s a concept marketed to the minds of the masses as something that is not attainable. It’s the consistent reminder of looking in the mirror and not having smooth skin, or huge tits, or perfect pecs and a washboard stomach. Because all of those things are held in the highest regard as what true beauty is.
But true beauty lives in the smile of a genuine laugh. The knowing glance between friends and lovers. A compliment of one’s character and accomplishments. We’ve become so enamored with the physical that we tend to overlook one of the oldest laws in life: True beauty lies within the soul. And that’s something you can’t fake because you either have it or you don’t. Physically, you can be the most beautiful person in the room but it means absolutely nothing if your soul is corroded. The sad thing about that is you’ll still be desirable and wanted because of your looks. But only you’ll know how ugly you really are.