Somehow we got onto the subject of the growing pains of gay dating and the unrealistic expectations some young men have in regards to love and relationships. Everyone wants to fall in love and be with that one person for the rest of their lives, and this is a reality for many people both gay and straight.
In order to achieve that goal you will, unfortunately, go through the process of meeting a multitude of creeps, skidmarks and scallywags before you find The One. In my own personal experience I have met some men that I knew weren’t going to enhance my life in any way but I allowed my attraction for them to supersede common sense.
Then at other times I have completely shit all over good guys because I found them boring or too attentive.
Now I don’t know where I am with love. I know I want it, but then again I know that it’s really not going to happen until I stop looking for it so hard.
He’s out there somewhere probably wondering where I am. But until we meet all I can do is sit back and submit to the process. And by that I don’t mean just take whatever comes my way. I need to appreciate this time of learning what I will and won’t stand for so that when it does happen I can say that the journey towards the destination was one hell of a ride. Because so far it has been one hell of a ride.
This philosophy applies to other aspects of life as well. For instance, with our careers. No one starts out as the CEO of a corporation. It takes years to build the knowledge and skill needed for that type of responsibility. Skills that can only be developed through time and commitment.
I have been writing since I was a teenager but I have done a terrible job of sharing my words with anyone. I have allowed this fear to hinder me from beginning the process of letting my audience find me. I’ve been so afraid of not being successful with it that I wasn’t even going to attempt putting myself out there.
But, if this is a gift I should share with the world then why be stingy with it, right?
Our lives are a long trip of journeys, processes, destinations and goals. We will constantly be in pursuit of something whether it’s love, money, fame or success. Sometimes we will get what we want and sometimes we’ll have to amend our plans to fit our circumstances. But we must always try. Because if we never try, we will never know.